5 LIFE Lessons Men Learn TOO LATE In Life
Hey guys! Today I am going to talk about 5 LIFE Lessons Men Learn TOO LATE In Life, So let’s get started; Imagine a man sitting comfortably in his house, who is doing time-pass on mobile, and then a big portal opens in his room, out of which a robot comes out.
The robot comes out and tells the man that 'I have come from the future to tell you
your mistakes'. The man gets confused
and says what are you saying.
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The robot says that the thing is that you have sent me to you from future to
past so that I can tell you what
mistakes you are going to make in the future,
due to which your life will be very unsuccessful and unhappy.
So that you can get the option that you can change your
future! After hearing this the man
becomes very happy and says tell me my
mistakes, so that I do not commit those
mistakes again in the future.
See friends, that was an imaginary scene. But what if I tell
you, that yes, we are also going to make
a lot of mistakes in the coming time!
And wouldn't it be good
if we know now what mistakes we are going to make in the future?
So that we can avoid making mistakes and have a happy
life. Now you'll say, 'Obviously'.
But how do we know?
See, there is a quote of Albert Einstein, 'If you want to know the future, look at the
past'. It is not necessary that the past is only yours, if you see the past of many people, if we read other people's books, look at other people's lives, then we can know what mistakes most people
make so that we do not do the same
mistakes to make our life good.
So today I am going to share five such life lessons with you, from the reference of different books, by learning from the mistakes of different
people so that we do not make that
mistake in our life.
And to tell the mistakes, I'll take reference of two
books, '12 Rules for life' and 'Beyond order', Both the books are written by Jorden Peterson
and are amazing! I will take help of
some different research as well as stories
so that I can explain to you the mistakes that most of the people
do which you should not do! So, let's start!
Mistake Number : 1
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Mistake no. 1. A
study was done in Harvard, which is
considered as the longest study till date!
In this study, the lives of 724
men were being tracked for 75 years. Out
of which, 60 people are still alive today,
who are participating in study even today!
This study which was started in 1938 and all these people were divided into two
types of men. The first group was the
students of Harvard University who did
their college at the time of world war 2.
And after graduation, they went to serve in wars. The second group was of the poorest
children in Boston whose life was very
difficult. They didn't have a house to
live, did not have food to eat and all were from different backgrounds.
When the men of both these groups were in their teenage
time, then their medical examination
were taken and their parents were also
interviewed to get the proper update of
their life. And in no time, those
teenagers became adults.
And entered different fields. Some people became factory workers, some became electricians, some people became doctors. And a few of them became president of US
also. Means, you can say, there were a lot of variations in
results.
Some of them got very high positions, and some of them were broke, who became alcoholic and drug addicts.
Doctor reports of all those people were also taken, blood tests were also done, brain scans were also done, and interview were also taken of their wife
and kids, So that it can be known that
what is most important in life, which
thing that gives the most happiness to a person.
In these 75 years of research, you know what came out?
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It came out that materialistic things are not that
important. That experience is
important, but not that important, compared to this one thing. What's the thing which keeps a person
happy? That thing is good relationships. Good relationships keeps us happier and
healthier.
In-fact, two important things came out of this study! First was that, social connections are very
good for us. And in reality, loneliness
decreases our life span. Those who stay
connected to their friends and family,
are more happier. Stay physically
healthier, and their life span is also
more than others.
Whereas those who stay lonely, maximum times, they are not happy! Their health starts declining in their
midlife! Brain stops working properly! This was the first finding. And the second important finding was
that It is not necessary for a person to
be lonely, to be alone.
Sometimes people are surrounded by many people, yet feel
lonely. Who have a lot of friends but
don't have a good friend. Their
relationships don't have that depth.
These people are not happy in their life! Such marriage which have a lot of conflicts
and fighting, have divorce or
breakup, physical health of those people
gets damaged!
On the other hand, warm relationships make both of them feel good. That's why the first mistake you should not
do in your life is money, fame and
materialistic things after which most
people run! Don't run after all these
things so much that you spoil your
relationship, and you can't be happy in
your life!
And a lot of people realize this mistake very late! But you don't do this mistake! Let's come to the second mistake!
Mistake Number : 2
At one time Jordan Peterson used to live beside a
biker, who used to come to his house at
night drunk used to knock and try to
sell him microwave and toaster. Going to
someone's house late night, it will make
anyone uncomfortable!
Jordan Peterson's wife used to feel very uncomfortable
also! But still Jordan Peterson didn't
want a fight, that's why he used to deny
him to avoid uncomfortable situation,
and sometimes, he also bought some things.
But one day Jordan Peterson's patience ran out. He decided to confront him! When that person came in the midnight, Jordan Peterson looked into the eyes and told
the man that your coming here again and
again is making my wife feel uncomfortable
and I will not support your drinking habit by giving money.
As soon as Jordan Peterson said this, the man stared at Jordan Peterson for 15 seconds, but when he realized that author was not afraid, he was standing straight, then he went back, after that he never came! After this, when that person used to meet him, he used to have respect for Jordan Peterson in his eyes.
This story also reminds me of a quote of Tim Ferris who says
that 'A person's success in life can
usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable
conversations he or she is willing to have'.
The second mistake that most of the people do in their life that they
never confront anyone!
They don't tell the truth to others what they are
feeling, sometimes people don't even
tell themselves the truth. Example, If I ask you a question, give me answer honestly! At-least, don't lie
to yourself!
Whatever decisions you took in your life, related to career, relationships, investments, are you happy in that?
If yes, that's good!
But if no, stop lying. It's okay to lie to others, not not to yourself! Because sometime we lie to ourself! Because of which we are not able to stay
happy in our life!
And that's a very big mistake, which I and you, should never do! Like, if I give my example, when I was doing engineering, I could lie to myself that 'I'll become
engineer'. But no, I confronted myself
and spoke truth to myself.
I talked to myself and said,
'See, you don't like engineering,
and I can't spend my life doing job like others'. This is exactly what I needed! I spoke truth to myself and was able to take
a big decision! I want to start YouTube, want to become a content creator!
Mistake Number: 3
In the same way you also start taking action by telling the
truth to yourself! And also remember
this third mistake, which you'll learn
from the lesson of CEO of Amazon! Jeff
Bezos was very hard working and intelligent.
He tells, he didn't want to waste
his precious skills in safe and secure
jobs for investment companies or software companies.
That's why he thought about a concept, which he also calls 'Regret Minimization
Framework'. Where he imagines himself at
the age of 80.
Where he was seeing his whole life. And was questioning himself, If he leaves his secure job and starts his
own startup in a new thing like internet,
even if he fails, will he regret
it at the age of 80 years? He got answer
'NO'. On the other hand, if he does not
take a risk and continues to do a secure job
and spends an average life.
will he regret it at the age of 80?
The answer came 'YES'. Thinking this, he resigned the job
and started Amazon, which maximum people
can't do! This is a mistake! Not taking risk when you can! Friends, a bitter truth is that many of us
are very smart and hard working. But we
are afraid! We are afraid of taking
risks.
We are afraid of starting a new thing. We do things to impress our friends, family
and society. Due to which we are not
able to be the person we can be! So,
never do this third mistake in your life!
If you have interest in something,
and you think there is risk in it,
then try that thing!
Mistake Number : 4
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Doing this, remember mistake no. 4 also! Mistake I'll tell you from a sparrow
story! There lives a sparrow which has
made a nest in a farmer's field! That
field is of wheat! It has four baby
birds in that nest, whom she feeds after
coming there!
One day the bird goes to get food and when she comes
back and sees that her baby birds are
very scared! The bird asks the children
why are they scared! They say that the
farmer just came, and he told us that
tomorrow the harvesting of crops will start!
My son will come tomorrow and start harvesting all these crops.
You have still a chance to leave! After listening this, the sparrow says, 'It's okay, don't worry! Nothing will
happen!'
'No one will come tomorrow'.
And when the second day comes,
the bay birds are very scared!
But still they trust her mother,
the same happens! No one comes
and their nest stays safe! Some days
pass! After which, again the sparrow
comes, and she sees that baby birds are
scared!
She asks, why are you afraid now?
They say, the farmer came again, and said, 'we are about to harvest the
crops, 'and to do this, I am about to
send my brothers and some workers'. So
vacate this nest! After listening this,
the sparrow says, 'no need to worry, no one will come'.
And guess what? She
is again right! Next day, no one
comes! And they are living happily! Again some days pass! And when she comes, she sees that baby birds
are scared!
She asks, why are you afraid now?
They say, the farmer came again! This time, he said, 'Vacate this tomorrow, I myself will harvest all
crops'. It's too late so please you
leave! As soon as the bird hears this,
she gets scared! And she says that yes,
it is okay! Now we have to leave this
house. And they leave this house! When the baby birds ask sparrow.
why did you trust him this time?
She says, 'firstly,
the farmer was dependent on his kids and others to get his work done. And I knew that no one would work! But as soon as he took the decision that he
would do it himself, I knew that he had
the guts to do it! That's why we
left!
And this is true also!
He harvested all the crops next day!
See friends, this story teaches us,
sometimes it is not good to depend on others. This is also a fact that you can't do great
things alone! But in the starting,
you'll have to do things alone!
Slowly you will start getting dependable people, on whom you can depend! But until you get good dependable
people, till then depend on yourself and
do work!
If you have to do anything, then take it upon yourself to do
it! And if you have delegated the work
and he isn't doing that, still you have
to do that work yourself! And tell
others that you don't need anyone, you can do it alone! This thing will help you to move forward in
life!
Mistake Number 5
And your level of respect will also keep increasing! And along-with it, also remember the fifth
mistake, which is very simple, that is 'Waiting for the right moment'. See friends, new year is about to come.
And I know, there are many such people, who might be thinking that it's December, let
me do whatever I want! And from January
I'll start working on my goals! I'll go
to gym! I'll start my business and will
do everything! And you see, during
January, gyms get a lot of memberships!
Because this is reality!
All people are waiting for the perfect time! Remember, perfect time never comes in
life! Today's time is what you
have! You can't predict future! So, start doing what you can do today!
Because as life moves,
your life will become hard instead of getting easy! You'll have a lot of responsibilities, people's expectations, health problems and a
lot of things! That's why author Jordan
Peterson also says, 'Start from today,
what you can do' 'Today is your right
moment'.
So the things which you are waiting for, maybe for starting a business, becoming a
content creator, start doing things
today! There is also a quote from
author, 'Every moment waited is a moment
wasted'. So, please don't wait! Have patience but don't wait!